30 Old 30 Young
30 Old 30 Young explores the fascinating contrasts of life in your thirties through the eyes of two cousins living vastly different paths. Join us as we navigate the uncertainties of adult life, from career choices to lifestyle decisions, through both a globetrotting adventurer's and a family-focused perspective.
Our main episodes dive deep into real-life challenges facing thirty-somethings today, while our mini-episodes break down the three best and worst aspects of pivotal adult life scenarios.
Whether you're questioning your life choices, seeking perspective, or just wanting to hear honest conversations about adulting, this podcast offers authentic insights into the beautiful chaos of your third decade. New episodes released weekly, featuring raw discussions about career transitions, relationships, mental health, and the endless quest for work-life balance. Your thirties don't come with a manual - but this podcast comes pretty close.
30 Old 30 Young
Our Biggest Self-Icks: The Things That Drive Us Crazy About Ourselves
In this episode, we peel back the curtain and reveal a few things about ourselves that… well, once you hear them, you might not un-hear them. We’re talking habits, hangups, and those little things we pretend aren’t annoying. Are they icks? Maybe. Are they entertaining? Definitely. Come judge us (gently).
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Hello and welcome to 30 Old, 30 Young, the podcast where we are in our 30s but our knees are past 70. Are you ready?
Speaker 2:Mine are past 80. Past 80.
Speaker 1:They're on their way out. Mine are Shambles, you're running.
Speaker 2:Need a knee replacement.
Speaker 1:Spend your life on the treadmill. That's the issue.
Speaker 2:Honestly, back-to-back gym classes kill me these days.
Speaker 1:Because you've always got to keep living in that rat race, haven't you?
Speaker 2:You've got to keep living in that rat race, haven't you?
Speaker 1:you got to keep on the wheel absolutely one life. Live it, let's go, okay. So we thought we had a shot at some people um a few weeks ago for like relationship ics and things that are big no-nos about other people. So we thought it's only fair we give our own um and this was worryingly what, what? It was hard for me. I couldn't think of many so I thought, well, best off asking Brie. Yeah, and she whipped off like eight.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but it's meant to be. What annoys you about yourself?
Speaker 1:No, no, I know, but when she said them, I was like, yeah, that is annoying, I do that. So, yeah, okay, she told me a good few that made the list Do you agree with them.
Speaker 2:Oh God, yeah, Right, you go. Then what's your top number one? No three, we go for, don't we?
Speaker 1:Three, yeah, I would say it's my tunnel vision. When I get something new, like a hobby or something, I am all in on that hobby. I am dropping everything. I'm playing paddle three times a week. I'm going golfing four times a week. I'm doing that. That is the one thing I'm doing. I'm going climbing, whatever. However, the main ick about that, because there's nothing wrong with that. You know, I commit to the bit, sure, yeah, but the tunnel's quite short, so I'm out of that hobby pretty quickly, like if I can't get a friend to go with me, or, you know, because paddles are hard, because you've got to get three more people.
Speaker 2:But why? Why do you reckon you're like that though? Because there's something in you that makes you want to move on. It's like you should never tell people about what you want, so say, if I'm like, oh, I want to be, I want to write a book, and you tell loads of people. You don't end up writing a book because you release something in your brain that says you've done it because you've told people you're releasing something, so you don't do it.
Speaker 1:Yeah because you. That's why you should never tell like you don't want to be around the people who say that they're going to do that thing. You want to be around people who do that thing no, I'm saying it's in your brain.
Speaker 2:It releases like a chemical that when you, when you achieve something, it releases a chemical. But it's the same as when you're telling someone you've done it. It releases the same chemical the brain yeah, so you don't end up doing something, so you should never tell anyone, because it outside energy knocks it off and your own brain that's why I've told no one we're doing a podcast and I think everyone knows now.
Speaker 1:So yeah, um, that is, yeah, it's just a, it's a short tunnel, but I think I just I just flip from thing to thing because, like I see, you know a video. Let's face it, I'm susceptible to the instagram and facebook and tiktok marketing. So I see a new sport happening. I want to. I always think that maybe if I'm first one in, I want to be the best at that and that's also the problem.
Speaker 2:That's why I quit as well oh, that's it, that's the beat, that's it, that's it. There you go. So, yeah, that's why I go.
Speaker 1:I jump in, I go. Well, if I'm starting paddle now, in three months I will be competing yeah, but it takes longer than that.
Speaker 2:It's like success takes years yeah, so when you're going through a bad bit and they're like, oh, you know, you've got to go through. It doesn't happen overnight, it can happen over 10 years. So I was talking to a friend of the danish like, oh, I don't know if I'm doing the right thing, blah, blah, blah. I'm like, mate, you've only been doing it three years.
Speaker 1:It takes longer than that, to get success, it's your 10,000 hours, isn't it? That's the thing.
Speaker 2:It's just till you get there and it can take years.
Speaker 1:No, no, that's like a thing. Oh is it? They say you've got to put in your 10,000 hours into a thing to be like.
Speaker 2:How many days is that? 24 hours in a day. Come on mathematic.
Speaker 1:Four years, four years four years. I don't know that's not right.
Speaker 2:Okay, we'll forget that. I picked that number out.
Speaker 1:I was like it's either four or forty. Both could be wrong. So I mean your phone is right there. I know, but you want to, you want to exercise the brain we'll have a lot.
Speaker 2:I'll come back to you it's like an interview and they're like they ask you a question and you're like that's a good question? I'm not sure, but I'll get back to you. Let's circle back.
Speaker 1:But yeah, you've got to put in your four years or 40 years to be good at something.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:So yeah, I just need, I'm just not doing that, I'm putting in my four weeks, four months, four months.
Speaker 2:Four months.
Speaker 1:We're doing good on the podcast because it's been what what's nearly coming up to a year well, since we started, yeah, we didn't release in august idea and everything like that, like the foundation of it, which is pretty mad actually. So we'll get into it. So there we go. That might be out the window soon. Go on what's yours okay, um, good question.
Speaker 2:Let me revert to my phone because I've forgotten the things that really annoy me yeah, that's one of them at the minute.
Speaker 1:Remembering lists Old age. Ah right your reaction to yourself. I am like that.
Speaker 2:Do you know? What annoys me is you feel stressed when you don't respond to someone, and I was having this conversation with my friend the other day. You know, when you've got texts coming through and you've got loads and you, like, you think, oh my god, I've got to respond to everyone. That when you're poorly, you're in bed, you're dying and people are texting you, you have this stress that you need to message back. It's constant, isn't it? And people expect it as well, because they know you're going to have your phone near your bed, near your hand, it's somewhere. I do expect it.
Speaker 2:But do you know what? And I was saying well, this, me and my friend were having a conversation about this the other day and I said whatsapp need to release something where you can set, say, if you want time away from your phone for two hours, where you can switch off that stress having to respond to people. It should have like an out of office on a whatsapp, so when you send a message, it's like oh, I'm having two hours off the grid, I'll come back to you. Amazing. Thanks for agreeing with me you can do that on business you can.
Speaker 1:You can set um what a normal whatsapp you can just set that you can be yeah, but is that your status? No, no, like you can say I've got a thing um where once I've been on tiktok for 15 minutes, it'll pop up and say like that's your 15 minute limit done and it'll close tiktok down. No, I mean no, but you can set hours where you your whatsapp's on. That's why I have to. I have to do not disturb one from half eight no, I'm on about no one's disturbing me.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but if some, say like if you message me and you're like oh, I know she'll have a phone and I'm in it, so you message me. I was um, an automatic text message will go back to you saying I'm spending two hours away from my phone right now. I'll get back to you.
Speaker 1:There isn't, and I look no well, don't tell everyone this could be a million dollar idea. Yeah, I mean, we are the first adult generation, yeah, that are constantly accessible. We are constantly, we can constantly be access, access, access, christ, we can constantly. Someone can always get to us, whether or not we ignore it, and the problem is it can then be. People get affronted if you do, if you don't respond at night. Yeah, you and I work on different time schedules. Like you are a night owl, absolutely, and I'm not, not, actually.
Speaker 2:You're not too bad though, are you?
Speaker 1:I'm both, yeah, which is bad, which is not great for me. So I'm replying. I'm replying to you at half past midnight, then also replying to you at half five. Yeah, that's a problem, but it's. Yeah, you're constantly. People always but. And then people will be like well, why didn't you reply, like when you work up in the morning, why you reply that? And you can. We always have that pressure to reply where it used to be. You just have to reply pre-email. You used to have to just reply when you're in the office and go and see the person. When there was email you could only reply when you're at work, but now because email is everywhere text is everywhere you're fucked you would ring someone the house phone.
Speaker 2:It would go to an answer phone. Sorry, we're not in.
Speaker 1:Please, we'll call you back later no, they've gone out for the day, so you get a good 10 hours like peace and quiet the amount of films, the amount of films you see, where someone will call and they're like do you not know we're having dinner? You're like we're having dinner, it's family dinner. Why are you calling at this time? We're having dinner.
Speaker 2:It's like now my grandparents actually do that to me. I'm having dinner six o'clock, charlotte.
Speaker 1:Why are you ringing now. It's like People need to have their time away from devices. However, they're just strapped to us right now.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. I think WhatsApp create a bloody like whatever it's called an out of office. Yeah, you have got one for business WhatsApp, but not on a normal one.
Speaker 1:That's weird.
Speaker 2:I know.
Speaker 1:So yeah, that's Just see if you can set a limiter on your phone because there's that app, opal, you can use.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but it's not that, though, it's for the people who you're trying to message. Who message you?
Speaker 1:so they're aware that you're not by your phone so you, you want the automated message you don't want. You're just ignoring them exactly I've seen your message.
Speaker 2:I'll get back to you at my earliest convenience yeah, and because it's sending an instant response. That stress in your head's not there because they are. You know, they're aware that you're not going to respond straight away or or WhatsApp.
Speaker 1:Have something on the sender's end? Actually, no, it does. I was replying on Instagram to one of our active followers and he goes.
Speaker 2:It's quite late, are you sure? Does this need to be sent?
Speaker 1:that's really good, because WhatsApp should have that, because it's like, and I thought they need to sort out, sort out whatsapp.
Speaker 2:Yeah, have a look at yourself guys, so what's your second?
Speaker 1:second one, then, is my fun facts your what my?
Speaker 2:fun facts that aren't very fun oh, yeah, I get them out every day. Yeah, all the time, yeah.
Speaker 1:I have a lot of facts, but I have one. I think that was the key that made Bree think of this so obviously, with brie's family being from out of the country and her friends all that lot. So when they come and visit, yeah, they did not get your joke. No, no, that's fine. They come to derby, yeah, but like we'll go into town, yeah and I'll park at bold lane car park right and I'll be quick to tell them that. Did you know that this is the fourth most secure building in the world?
Speaker 2:Oh God, and they're like what are you talking?
Speaker 1:about yeah, you park there Because it's that end of town, it's nice end of town, so I park there and they're like no, it's not.
Speaker 2:It's in Europe, isn't it?
Speaker 1:No, it's the world. Oh, but then they Google it and right there it's got like Fort Knox that you know it's secure as anything.
Speaker 2:You can't get out of there. But then you get to the little barrier going how secure is this? This is what I mean.
Speaker 1:They paid for that it's secure because it locks you in if you try, and if you try and nick a car and it's locked in, yeah, it's a barrier upon the. It lifts a bomb on the car. You can't get that car out of there, secure as anything.
Speaker 2:Plus, they give you an umbrella so it's a fact then, is it? It's a fact.
Speaker 1:Yeah, okay, I like fact though yeah, I know, but I think I just well, the problem is we've been together so long so they're running out. Now I'm running out of facts and she'll. She'll kind of we're having a conversation about something and she'll know what's coming, and she'll be like poor. Brie, sometimes I'll go. Do you know that? She'll be like, yeah, yeah, I do, yeah and I'm like you're such a dick so she shoots me down and I'm like okay, I'll keep the contracts.
Speaker 1:I'll save for a new audience who sometimes politely like them we'll do.
Speaker 2:Top we'll do should we let?
Speaker 1:do you want my top?
Speaker 2:hundred best facts okay right next one. I'll say my one. So this is a don't clean your dishwasher like you're right, you could right.
Speaker 1:Let me start again number two I'm a dirty bitch I'm not.
Speaker 2:You know, when the dishwasher's clean, right, but you don't clean it, put it all away straight away in the cupboards. Yeah, plates and stuff yeah and if you've cooked eggs, sometimes it leaves a really weird smell in your um dishwasher. I hate it. It smells like a fish tank wait. So you hate it. You put the dishwasher on, yeah, and then just say, if I've it, it smells like a fish tank wait so you hate it.
Speaker 1:You put the dishwasher on, yeah, and then just say, if I've done it overnight and I've cooked eggs in there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it leaves a weird smell. I hate that smell. It's just like a cycle. No, I don't, it's just that water smell I hate it.
Speaker 1:That's not a self-hick at all. Your ick is that you forget to clean it up. Dad put them out straight away counts your ex with the appliance, not you. It's not your fault.
Speaker 2:No, but it's not, because if you take it out straight away, I don't feel like it gets that smell, so you're saying your ick is that you're not being proactive enough with your dishwasher. There you go. That's my ick guys.
Speaker 1:Sure, I've really got to scrape the barrel with these ones?
Speaker 2:Oh no, I got ball and D what's your next one then?
Speaker 1:Oh well, I kind of knocked out two with my first one.
Speaker 2:So what's your worst? Ick about yourself.
Speaker 1:I'll tell you what this one's a bit disgusting, oh God.
Speaker 2:Oh dear. But you know, because I'm an absolute, it's coming out now.
Speaker 1:I'm an absolute athlete of a man no, no, I'll tell you what I'll skip this, no go on.
Speaker 2:No, you got your setting now however have you ever had one?
Speaker 1:here, no, thank god, because you know, you know, don't ever do it, jake because, no, as a sideline to that, my ick with myself right now is I'm becoming more, I'd say, dad-like in my unawareness of social cues. So I'm just oversharing massively with people I shouldn't be oversharing with.
Speaker 2:Oh, I do that all the time, but this is linked to farting so what? Oh, so you tell them what you've had to eat?
Speaker 1:No, so we were at a pub and the guy was like, oh, do you want our? I said, what pizza have you got? And he was like oh we've got, you know, pepperoni and blah blah but, then we've got this hot honey, yeah, and I said to him oh, I could go for the hot honey because I'm fine with it going in. Problem is it's at the other end. Oh no and everyone around the table.
Speaker 1:Are you saying that to the waiter? I was like I don't know why. I just said that gross, it's true I do have this thing where I can eat spicy food doesn't doesn't do much on front end, it's uh I mean I don't have that problem because I'm perfect okay, sure, oh yeah, my stuff like roses I'm sure, absolutely looley um, so I stink.
Speaker 2:That's my other ink.
Speaker 1:Well, thank god you don't do it. I'm polite with it. I'm polite with my stinky, you know what you tell people, was you no? No, I'll go outside I'll go outside. I mean brie's now not on that vip list of people I go outside for. I'm like we're always together, like I can't keep these away from you.
Speaker 2:You're gonna smell them gosh, it is what it is well, I was in the airport the other day and a man dropped one right behind me and it flipping stank, yeah, and I was just like that's disgusting. That is actually disgusting, it's gross. It's going on my nostrils in my mouth, articles in your mouth you had that guy's poo in your mouth. Oh right, right, I'll just tell you, man, let's get off this conversation. It feels sick, but does that really get you?
Speaker 2:yeah, at all I remember once I was on a car journey with my mum and my brother and they did something and they might have burped or something and I just couldn't cope. I had to cover my Coca-Cola thing that I had, so I didn't get into my coat. This is the problem isn't it just wave around, okay, but my worst one is going to bed. I into bed, I drive myself up the wall. Are you an insomniac type?
Speaker 1:or are you just like I think I am?
Speaker 2:you know, you don't realize time's passing well, I'm like a child who needs to be told when to go to bed and there's nobody. Imagine maisie does do it sometimes. She does actually. She'll come to me. No, but she'll come to me and she'll look dead stern and she's like like this, like a how, what's that called a dog? Okay?
Speaker 2:you're doing an impression of a dog yeah, but she stands so stiff, that's it, and like up to attention and eyes are looking at me. I'm like, okay, she's being demanding right now, but yeah, it's going to bed. Like last night I didn't get sleep, tom. I think I've had a sleep like two o'clock in the morning what do you get?
Speaker 1:what time do you get up?
Speaker 2:like 8 am that's that's if, that's if I'm working from home. You know I'm going out for a meeting.
Speaker 1:Sometimes it can be earlier but then do you like, if you know you're going for a meeting, you go to bed, right?
Speaker 2:no, sometimes I struggle. There's a baby still, I am literally. So when kids are like I'm not tired, I'm like I get it.
Speaker 1:Don't you worry, kid, I get it you actually do sleep like a baby, you don't?
Speaker 2:you refuse to until two o'clock in the morning yeah, the only thing I have lotus that helps is leaving my light on, like my lamp on it helps me go to sleep.
Speaker 1:You are a literal baby, you've got a night light. I was about to suggest jokingly that we just got Bryn a sleep training. So it's two o'clock and flashing red. It's like just fucking go to bed.
Speaker 2:No, honestly, I try everything, even even sometimes going to my spare room, and then I'll fall asleep because it's just a different bed, different environment and it's just a nightmare. So I get it when kids can't sleep.
Speaker 1:A cat, I'm not like it sounds like you're like a cat, you just like find a different position to fall asleep honestly, it drives me insane.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna bloody.
Speaker 1:It's gonna age me yeah, it will do but then again they say, sleeping ages you anyway, because you're sleeping on your side just squishing your face, making it all wrinkly unless you're using that beef, you know but that's it.
Speaker 2:That's the top for me. What have you?
Speaker 1:you've told me yourself yeah, I've told you my top three. I just feel you've got to think of another second one. Why? Give the fans what they want. One of your ricks was a dishwasher. That doesn't count. That doesn't count.
Speaker 2:I put it all out on the line.
Speaker 1:I've got ADHD and I stink.
Speaker 2:Okay, you're going to make me say it aren't you? Go on being laid, it's fucking out, it is out.
Speaker 1:You guys know the stress that I go through the stress I go through.
Speaker 2:Do you know how much it stresses me?
Speaker 1:out. That's what's mad, though. It stresses you out and you're like what can I change?
Speaker 2:but it's weird, because at work I'm different oh yeah, that's it.
Speaker 1:You lock in for. Yeah, you lock in for things that you can't be late for, but then you kind of like a little bit flexi lexing with your socials yeah, but anyway, it just drives me up the wall and I'm thinking is it because I'm dyslexic? You did tell me once and it did make me want to not flip a table necessarily yeah, but when you said told me you were time blind.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That's. It's not a thing, is it? Yeah, time blind. Yeah, does that mean you can't tell the time?
Speaker 2:So, right, I was on the ski lift and one of my friends says right, charlotte, we're going to do this at this time. And I was like well, is that like quarter past six? And she's like yes, it is quarter past six, but I had to like what did she say?
Speaker 1:6.15?
Speaker 2:No, she said, oh, in like she said something weird.
Speaker 1:18.15. Was she going like military?
Speaker 2:No, it might have been like, oh, in quarter of an hour, and I had to kind of work out. It's just in my head. That's mad.
Speaker 1:There might be something going on there.
Speaker 2:yeah, yeah it, it could be.
Speaker 1:I mean, I'm not, I'm not honestly, I definitely can't diagnose you.
Speaker 2:I had, no, I've been diagnosed with dyslexic oh well, so I think that's it.
Speaker 1:You sound like a dick. No, she can't tell us I'm a loser.
Speaker 2:No, I think it is honestly dyslexic.
Speaker 1:Yeah one of your exes are dyslexic yeah, dyslexic, piss me off that.
Speaker 2:It's in there, it's in there.
Speaker 1:All right. Well, I think it's fair game that we put ourselves out there and realize that you're a dyslexic tardy night owl.
Speaker 2:Tardy.
Speaker 1:Tardy, that's not a rude word, that's all right, that word's fine. Okay, tardy is when someone's late. There's a word that's, there's a prefix to it which makes it a bad word.
Speaker 2:I say positive. A bad word. I said positive, that's it. That's my problem. I've just worked out. I go to bed because I'm excited. I don't want to go to sleep, so I'd rather stay awake like a kid on christmas yeah being late, I feel like I've always got more time. And I'm a bit dyslexic as well. I'm a bit of both. It's because I'm positive.
Speaker 1:I'm a positive person you're a dyslexic little puppy Just running around.
Speaker 2:And what are you then? Go. On.
Speaker 1:I'm a stinky oversharer. I guess that's me.
Speaker 2:There we go.
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