30 Old 30 Young
30 Old 30 Young explores the fascinating contrasts of life in your thirties through the eyes of two cousins living vastly different paths. Join us as we navigate the uncertainties of adult life, from career choices to lifestyle decisions, through both a globetrotting adventurer's and a family-focused perspective.
Our main episodes dive deep into real-life challenges facing thirty-somethings today, while our mini-episodes break down the three best and worst aspects of pivotal adult life scenarios.
Whether you're questioning your life choices, seeking perspective, or just wanting to hear honest conversations about adulting, this podcast offers authentic insights into the beautiful chaos of your third decade. New episodes released weekly, featuring raw discussions about career transitions, relationships, mental health, and the endless quest for work-life balance. Your thirties don't come with a manual - but this podcast comes pretty close.
30 Old 30 Young
Goodbye 2024: A year in review
It’s the Season 2 finale of 30 Old 30 Young! Whaaaat!!
As we wrap up the year and the end of season 2, we’re celebrating Christmas and taking a moment to appreciate the journey of 2024...
all the ups, downs, and everything in between.
Episode 20 is filled with laughter, presents, reflection, and a little (maybe big) announcement for Season 3 regarding our new sponsor!
Thank you all, from the bottom of our hearts for all the support you have given us this year.
Wishing you all a wonderful Christmas with your families and friends - drink plenty(ish) , eat loads, and laugh even more! And for anyone finding this time of year tough, remember you’re not alone. Take care of yourselves, and we’ll see you in 2025.
With love,
Charlotte & Jake - The Cousin Cult
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Two cousins taking different life paths discuss the highs and lows of being in your 30s, and nothing is off limits. This is life in your 30s. This is 30 old, 30 young.
Speaker 2:Hello and welcome to the series finale season series finale of 30 Old 30 Young.
Speaker 3:Hi everyone, happy Christmas.
Speaker 2:It's the second Christmas episode. I know you're absolutely buzzing for it. Anyway, you ready yet for Christmas?
Speaker 3:Yes, can't wait. I've got my year end at work tomorrow, so looking forward to getting that done. Very festive work tomorrow, so looking forward to getting that done. Very festive, yes, and then um next week I have all my presents finished. So by the weekend, obviously, I'll go down to the cotswolds see my grinding the choir. So christmas begins from tonight, right. First I really want to do presents because, well, I've got some presents for you.
Speaker 2:Nothing says Christmas like presents on December 11th.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but okay.
Speaker 2:It doesn't matter, I'm excited for it. I didn't wrap it, so I feel like I've been I know, Mr, I'm amazing at wrapping.
Speaker 3:Look, I'm going to put the effort in here. The thing is mine's edible and it's frozen.
Speaker 2:So if I'd wrapped to put the effort in here, the thing is mine's edible, so if I and it's frozen, so if I'd wrapped it, it'd stay in beer oh, it's frozen. They look good, they look so good after your dark, dark moment of having 25 shots of Baileys across the other Christmas, I'm about to open it. Well, it's your present.
Speaker 3:I bought this for you definitely bought it for me, didn't you? I saw her.
Speaker 2:I was like I was in food warehouse and they just they're always whipping out the collabs oh, so they're not in bathtub this is like the proper like when you get a shit gift.
Speaker 3:Oh oh, they're not wrapped either. It's nice and cold, though. There you go. Try one. Go on. What do you reckon?
Speaker 2:bailers oh, oh, yeah, oh, we should have done a reviewing food episode got pigged out. How many of these do I have to have to get drunk?
Speaker 2:it's just Bailey's flavour well, there's no alcohol in there did you see my story of some of the stuff I was taking pictures of at Food Warehouse? Whoever's working at Food Warehouse well, I assume there's a team, but they're absolutely off their nut. Some of the collaborations these guys come up with is insane. Like this is good Bailey's Eclairs I like that. They do like flump ice lollies. It's a bit of me.
Speaker 3:Cola bottle ice lollies flump ice lollies yeah yeah, cola bottle, cherry cola bottle right, I think we should do every, every, every time we record. Now I'm all about this.
Speaker 2:You want me to bring a random.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So, oh yeah, presents Got distracted by the bailers.
Speaker 3:This one is from Maisie, okay, and she picked this and she was like saying you really, really want it.
Speaker 2:Is it dog food?
Speaker 3:It's from the pod dog. No, okay, once you got you oh.
Speaker 2:Oh really that.
Speaker 3:Oh, oh really, I don't know what it is that's actually your present. I thought this was. You know what this is going to be, don't you? You know what it is? Of course I know what it is hey, yay well, I thought obviously that's blue stuff.
Speaker 2:I mean, this is a new tradition every year. Every year, I'm giving you a new tradition every year, every year I'm giving you a brew dog.
Speaker 3:But I thought because obviously this year, with working with brew dog and stuff, I thought I'd get you that for the men's once I've had my drink from my lobotomised elf cup.
Speaker 2:yeah, I'll have a beer if you buy a present and it makes someone cry. Once I've had my drink from my lobotomized elf cup. Yeah, I love a beer If you buy a present and it makes someone cry because it's like super sentimental or something like that, you've absolutely smashed it. That's what you're aiming for. Uncle David did that. Yeah, he cried. Wait, he made you cry. Yeah, oh, with this year. Yeah, oh, well, that's nice, that's it.
Speaker 2:You're smashing it with the thingy with the diffuser yeah it does smell lovely yeah, it's gorgeous a little bit of what is it? It's a Christmas tree, isn't it? It smells like it's a pine tree kind of vibe. Yeah, you like the things in your car swinging from the visor, that's cute. But yeah, if you can make someone cry, that's what I'm aiming for. If I I want to make them cry.
Speaker 3:I wonder what you've got, Brie.
Speaker 2:Oh, she's already got it, has she? Yeah, she's already wearing it. It's something she's been asking for for a while, so I've got to.
Speaker 3:Did you get it?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:The bracelet. Yeah, oh my. God, yeah, yeah why did you not wait until Christmas Day?
Speaker 2:You've got a dollar average, haven't you? The more wear she, the cheaper it becomes.
Speaker 3:Yeah, why Did you give it to her?
Speaker 2:She was there when I bought it.
Speaker 3:Oh, okay, so she wanted to see it before. Try it on, yeah yeah yeah, yeah. So you got her the diamond bracelet.
Speaker 2:Because that's something that you, if you're going to make a purchase like that, you have to make sure it's spot on. I didn't want to go and do it and be like this one.
Speaker 3:this one's great, I like this one, and she goes oh yeah, Did you have to have it fitted for her wrist?
Speaker 2:or not. No, it can be made smaller. So she's taking it for a test drive. She's going to wear it over Christmas, see how it feels, and then they can take a link out. But I don't understand how that works with a diamond bracelet, because surely the more links you take out, the less diamonds you got in there. Well, that's two for one.
Speaker 3:See, I'm really bad. So one year it was Valentine's Day and I was actually seeing someone at the time. But I still got myself a Valentine's present because I didn't realise I was actually going to be dating anyone at the time. But it was this. It was this bracelet I gave myself, a little big. Can you see this?
Speaker 3:I couldn't hack that it's really, but I didn't send it back because I was so excited to get it. Yeah, and but to this day I need to buy. I need to go back into tiffany and comb like, can you just change that?
Speaker 2:would do my.
Speaker 3:They can't do it I went to the one in new york and I was like, yeah, we can do it. Oh, it's like so annoying.
Speaker 2:I can't, I don't wear. It's really bad. I don't wear any. I'm just starting to wear a watch. I've just bought a watch.
Speaker 3:What about your wedding ring?
Speaker 2:Don't wear it. Little column, A little column B. Column A I did lose it Column B, when I don't know I've lost it. If I knew where I'd lost it. Yeah, but like were you at the gym Did you walk out of your chair and lost my 70 bags at home. Right and it's in one of them.
Speaker 3:I'll say it's at home, somewhere it's at home somewhere.
Speaker 2:Okay, nothing's ever really lost, is it? You just don't know where it currently is. You know it's one of them, so I'll find it and Bree's finding it.
Speaker 2:She uses you anyway, she knows it used to really piss me off and I'm not going to size on it because it was digging into my other knuckle, into my other finger, and was giving me a right bruise on my middle finger, gosh, and I couldn't do anything like it. It just, it was just too thick. No, it wasn't really. It wasn't like a dainty little thing, but it was like a I don't know, but it just used to. I'm not used to wearing jewelry, so it just I couldn't. I got a little bit claustrophobic with it oh, did you?
Speaker 3:yeah, a little. Yeah, I got a little bit like that, it's like that time.
Speaker 2:I was stuck in a wellie. You got stuck in a wellie. Yeah, I bought some wellies and I thought, do you know, when you just go, I'm just going to try them on. I really want to try them on. I didn't have socks on, oh God, and I put them on and absolute suction, how were you? I was at home, so I was just in my boxes Like what In my boxes, in a pair of. Hunters.
Speaker 3:Oh my.
Speaker 2:God. I couldn't get them off. I couldn't get them off. I'm like Bree, you're going to have to cut me out of these. I was having a proper panic.
Speaker 3:Talking about Hunters did actually. I was dating a guy, two years relationship, but anyway, and he's I love how you always have to give like it right.
Speaker 2:Let me just say exactly the person you're in.
Speaker 3:You could just say day and I'm not going to follow up on it. Yeah, I know, but like you know, anyway, but it was quite nice because one day he sent me. He sent me a pair of hunters in the post and that was like around christmas time, but where was he?
Speaker 2:when he sent him in post. It's not very personal surprise, yeah he was yeah, it was santa.
Speaker 3:Somebody just sent me as a surprise was he in derby? Um, I don't know the logistics here because weird to no, he actually went to new york for christmas with his daughter that year because he booked it before we were like seeing each other and stuff.
Speaker 2:So yeah, he was in new york for christmas. Fair enough then, but I mean, was it like extra ticket? What are you saying to new york?
Speaker 3:we can all go I mean, it was very, very early on. It was very early on the nanny.
Speaker 2:He'll be fine. Um, everyone wants to do new york at christmas. It's like the the thing to do, isn't it? Yeah, I feel like you couldn't live up to it, though, could it?
Speaker 3:I don't know, I'm not sure, because obviously I went to New York this year, yeah, and I did enjoy it. I did kind of Like I enjoyed the helicopter ride. That was my favourite.
Speaker 2:Loved that Incredible With the German.
Speaker 3:But, yes, but I think New York itself. I think, because I was, I don't know I need to probably do it a bit differently next time yeah, so like do a bit more touristy things and like see it as a tourist. Maybe I thought you had well, you saw it from above as a tourist well, not really.
Speaker 2:No, because we were with someone who lives there so it was kind of like you know sometimes these places, that tourists go there because it's it's made for them. You know, obviously you've got people that live in new york. They go day to day, yeah, but you kind of don't right.
Speaker 2:So the whole airbnb thing was that you would you go to, you live like a local right yeah and you get to experience like the, like the nitty-gritty of a place and like they're really like the places that you don't really see as a tourist. However, sometimes it's nice. Those places are a bit shit. I've done it before. Where I've gone to the, I've done the small local places like you go to see family and places like that and you like when we used to go to america. All the time I've been to more places in wisconsin than anyone ever needs to go, and nine times out of ten, yeah, parl pants.
Speaker 1:Just bad, just like oh is this is this why you guys are?
Speaker 2:this is why your health care's through the roof and this is why you're all unhealthy because this stuff is terrible.
Speaker 3:See, I think it's a bit like london, though because, I absolutely love london. It's such an incredible city. It definitely is for a pop, it's yeah for like to go in for a weekend away. It's but, you can also have a really terrible time if you don't know what you're doing when you're there. Yeah, yeah, like. So it's a bit like new york. I feel like if you, you can go back there and have a totally different experience if you do different things and I think that's the same.
Speaker 3:So and I always thought you know, when I looked to the future, I always saw myself taking, like my kids, to Christmas in New York.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, you said yeah.
Speaker 3:That's always been like a thing.
Speaker 2:That's it. It's the big cliché.
Speaker 3:It's probably why I've always thought it yeah, You've got to see the tree at.
Speaker 2:Rockefeller Centre. You've got to go ice skating. Ice skating yeah, we've all seen Elf. Fill the bags. You want to do that. You want to do Elf? You want to go to Hamlet's Toys.
Speaker 3:Hamlet's. Is that not London?
Speaker 2:Well, there's loads of Hamlet's, I think. Oh is there.
Speaker 3:Hamlet's is amazing. That would be the dream yeah, it's Home Alone.
Speaker 2:2. It's Elf, it's, there's some bangers. Bad Santa I don't think that's in New York, though, but there's loads of it just all happens there.
Speaker 3:It's all happens in New York.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah and I guarantee if you're in New York, there's a good chance you'll probably see a Christmas film being filmed there while you're over there most likely god, that's mad, isn't it? They always say that people in New York say the most unrealistic thing about is that during the film you don't see them filming films, because that's what they see all the time. If you live there, there's always a street closed off to film something.
Speaker 3:I mean, I do love it, I do sometimes like a city. Oh yeah, I like it, the buzz and the food, the shops, the drinks. I love it.
Speaker 2:New York could absolutely bend you over, but you can also just have a kind of fumble through it. Yeah, you've just got to be aware of what area you're in and make sure that you're not finding yourself somewhere where you shouldn't be. But yeah, I like being in the city, I like the. Even if you go and do something crap, you can. Then there's something else 10 metres away that can completely turn your night around. You know, you can always bounce into somewhere else, whereas if you go to like a complete destination say you go to like a vineyard in italy, oh yeah, which sounds lovely, but, say you, you didn't do your research properly in the vineyard, yeah the wine's crap.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like the hotel's not very nice. You're like we're kind of stuck with this now this is it? So you know the weather's crap, but in a city, even if the weather's bad, you can kind of put up with it. You can yeah, because there's so many bits and buildings you know, yeah, sort your rights out so that that is, even if it is a shitty winter in in new york, it'll still be a lovely place for it the lights out and everything oh do you know what, though, I'm actually?
Speaker 3:I don't want christmas to end.
Speaker 2:I love like the best I know, but I feel like it's gonna go so quick it will do, because you do that, that whole thing where you get really excited for christmas day and it gets lesser as you get older. But like now, because obviously the kids I'm really excited for them to open their presents. I can't wait to see them open their presents yeah, so you rush to christmas day.
Speaker 2:And then christmas day happens and I know I'm already then five days into my break, yes, and then you kind of fumble your way through that weird 26, 27, 28. So that's when I'm going to hollis 29, so you've got something but I'm just in like a kind of blur. We are popping away a little bit. What are you gonna do? We're gonna go and have a little bit of time away with the kids there nice nice.
Speaker 2:Um, I think there's a weekend in there somewhere. We'll spend that. We'll get the weekend away there, sort of stay at a hotel maybe it was hotel text, with zoo maybe, or something like that, I don't know. Um, but we'll do that. And then it's new year and then suddenly I'm back at work oh, don't, don't. Yeah, I know, I mean I'm in a pretty privileged position because I get two weeks off over Christmas.
Speaker 3:I mean. So it's lovely. I think I'm going to have to do that. I feel like I need a bit more time, so I'm going to go back on the 6th when you go back nice, that's the way to do it. I'm going to have to book a bit of extra as well, because we've got a lot coming next year.
Speaker 2:We've got some planning to do and some doing to do as well. We've got some stuff to do before the new season starts yeah, exactly which is all very exciting, uh, but we'll get into that later. So yeah, that, so yeah. That is why it feels like you're completely rushing through christmas and you get so excited running into it and then you run through it and then suddenly it's the end and then you're looking forward into next year.
Speaker 3:I might just zips past I actually, honestly, I just love this feeling right now. If I could put it in a little, in a little bottle and just keep it, I would. Everyone said festive, you've got so much to look forward to. One you've got time off work. Two you've got time with you.
Speaker 3:Know, I'm seeing family again no, but then you're seeing loads of family. You've got loads of plans. Oh yeah, you know, this Friday I'm gonna go out with the girls and we've got our Christmas meal, which I'm absolutely buzzing for lovely. There's all the Christmas films to go and watch in the cinema. Yeah, like Simba's coming out, or Mufasa, the movie you've got Moana too, mufasa just focus on him, or is it prequ a prequel or something?
Speaker 3:have you not seen it? No, well, yeah, it's a new like Lion King coming out. Is it Christmasy? I don't know, but it's like Christmas in the cinema, aren't you?
Speaker 2:yeah, you gotta do it there again.
Speaker 3:I'm going skiing in January, so I've got something to look forward to. Charlotte, remind yourself, that's what I need to remember. I'm going skiing. Yeah, fair enough, so it's always Italy of course it's Italy bloody hell got that five trips ready planned for Italy next year have you well got two bloody.
Speaker 3:No, I'm actually looking forward to them, though, because it's different, because I'm going with the girls, so this is for skiing well, yeah, that's with the gym lads. Okay, so we went last year it every year. So, and then we've got another trip with the girls to italy, and I'm really looking forward to that.
Speaker 2:That's going to be fun that'd be nice, that'd be a wild one. Are they wild, wild, wild bunch?
Speaker 3:or is it going? To be like a really sophisticated chianti I mean it's just going to be great fun, yeah, like good food, good laughs. What's the vibe? What's the vibe of the?
Speaker 2:group. Yeah, you got a load of. You got a load of married girls going, or is it a load of single girls? What's going on?
Speaker 3:I mean it's just like a mixture of all different people, like our group has got so many different people in it is there going to be some fallouts? Oh no, we're not. No, not at all.
Speaker 2:No, it's not actually like that. It's a group trip. There'll be fallouts. There's got to be well, tbc tbc. I'm. I'm sorry to the girls and nothing against you. You have to. So one of the quickest ways to fall out of people is to go on holiday with them, because you just get it. You get in each other, you're you're in such close quarters that you all got your own room but you say that we're going to barcelona.
Speaker 3:Are you sharing rooms?
Speaker 2:are you sharing? Well, we're going to my friend's house in italy and then in the, I think, how many rooms you got.
Speaker 3:I don't know. And then we're actually. There might be a hotel stay as well, because I think we might go to the lake. So are you sharing rooms? Yeah, maybe for the thingy. Yeah, but we did that in Barcelona and we had the best time ever. Not one fallout. We just laughed the whole time well, I suppose they can do it, you know.
Speaker 2:What is it? An exception to the rule? Yes, but can they?
Speaker 3:do it twice. Well, we'll see. It's a different group but we'll see.
Speaker 2:Fresh group sharing rooms. I don't hold out much hope. But that's just me. I'm irritable. The thing I want to do and I think I kind of I touched on it a little bit last episode is I'm really looking forward to just because, like you just said, you've got loads of planned and you're excited for that. I'm excited. The other way is that we have only got really like one or two things planned besides a little trip away, so we can really just just enjoy them and that's quite nice.
Speaker 3:Yeah, exactly, making some nice breakfast. What can I say right now?
Speaker 2:I see cooper about an hour a day do you? He wakes up about half an hour before he's in the car to go to nursery and then by the time I get home from work he's a half an hour and he's off to bed. So I barely see him. So on the weekend I get to see him a lot, and then obviously over Christmas, with nursery clothes in Bastards how dare they. I'm going to go see loads of him and now he's walking and stuff. I can't wait to see him.
Speaker 3:You, I'm going go see loads of him and now he's walking and stuff and he's all. I can't wait to see him you know he's always absolutely buzzing.
Speaker 2:You know he's always smiling his head off oh, he's gorgeous so now he's smiling his head off on the move. Oh it's lovely so he's proper walking yeah, I mean he's like walking a little bit he's walking and he's like, oh, hang on, is crawling because it's a lot quicker that's what lola was like, wasn't it?
Speaker 2:yeah, they kind of they're at the awkward in between, but he can do it now without us worrying too much. He's gonna eat shit completely and it's nice. I was. I was worried because his spatial awareness, from like eight months to a year well, from okay up to a year his entire time has been zero, like he has. If there is something you can hit your head on, he'll find it like that was always his way, like he could be in a completely empty room and he'd find a corner and smack his head against it or bump into it and you're like coop, how have you even got there? Why, how so? Luckily, now he's become more aware of his surroundings and he's walking. Yeah, he's a lot more like, just better, yeah, he's, you know, he holds himself up and, you know, puts his hand against the wall, finds out where he's going.
Speaker 2:Because I remember once we were talking to someone on a plane and I said, oh god, I just wish with this one we just had bren, I just wish she was walking. And, um, the woman was like, uh, how old is she? And I was like, oh, she's, um, I think she was like 10 months. And she was like you don't enjoy it, enjoy it while they're crawling around. Because she said, my son started walking from nine months and he had no idea about things, so he was just pelting himself at walls like he was just running full.
Speaker 2:She was like it was a nightmare because he had no awareness of things he had, he didn't know what things were, so like he would just run into a cupboard, run into a door frame. And she said, when they're crawling they kind of approach it like they. When they run, they crawl into something at pace. It's not as bad, they don't fall as far. So it's, it's mental. But that's what we're going to do. We're going to I'm going to take a lot more stock this year and not be like what we're doing, what we're doing, let's you know we've got time off.
Speaker 3:Let's do everything yeah, yeah, I get that and that's nice.
Speaker 2:That's nice, we'll go to the park and stuff might, might carry on trying to teach brenna to ride a bike, you know and it's just nice not to do anything as well, isn't it, when you've got the day to yourself.
Speaker 3:That's why I'm booking a bit of extra time off yeah.
Speaker 2:So what's your standard christmas?
Speaker 3:morning look like like last year. Obviously I was on to tess's so I had louis waking me up, say, auntie charlotte, it's christmas. So I was like, oh my god. And he comes running in and then we all go downstairs and we're seeing all the presents being open and stuff, and that was really really nice. I love that. That was so cute this year. Well, I'm actually I'm gonna put my tree up, so I'm gonna come downstairs I'm gonna come downstairs, give maisie all of her presents, because she loves opening them.
Speaker 3:So I might have a really nice breakfast that morning, and then I'll come over to one of Tessa's done yeah, fine, not hectic, pretty chill, that's alright.
Speaker 2:Well, it might be a bit hectic when you come over. Actually, no, the kids are alright what time are we kicking off?
Speaker 3:12, midday oh, so yeah chill head over for then walk them over post coop nap, job done, it'll be.
Speaker 2:It'll be buzzing um and they'll have some presents to open over there as well I really don't want christmas to end it's literally the 11th of december I know, but I just you know how, like honestly, time just goes fast, isn't it?
Speaker 3:although good news in two weeks time it's going to start getting lighter outside well, that is it, because they they do so.
Speaker 2:I was looking at some of the other things that people celebrate over this time. Maybe they aren't christian, so they don't celebrate christmas. Yeah, and some of it is that they do a lot of like it's like sun festivals, so they are celebrating the fact that the days are getting longer again yeah, and I get that.
Speaker 3:That is good. I saw that straight away. I was like brilliant.
Speaker 2:I was like maybe I don't mind christmas being over, you know, got something to look forward to and I like, and I like, and I do like the, because the other thing I saw whilst looking at all of that stuff is in barbados. Do you know, what they call New Year's Eve.
Speaker 3:No.
Speaker 2:Old Year's Night, huh, so instead of New Year's Eve, so you're looking into the new year.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Their part is more about reflecting on how last year went. It's Old Year's Night, so it's the end of the old year rather than the start of the new one. Do you know what? And I like that.
Speaker 3:That's a bit of me, that I actually feel like that this year. Normally I'm all about new beginnings, yeah, and I'm like, yeah, new year, it's brand new year, you know, blah, blah, blah. But this year I do actually feel the opposite and I feel like I just want a moment just to sit. Well, no, I'm already.
Speaker 3:I've already been reflecting quite a lot you know I'm like, yeah, well, of course but I do feel like this year I just want to just sit and just kind of like say goodbye to the year, because I'm that's the thing yeah and I'm literally looking forward to that chapter closing. And I know people are like, well, it's only another day, but it's not. It's a new year, it's in 2025 yeah, and so it is.
Speaker 2:And it is another day, sure, but we're all, we're all slaves to the time and how? 24 hour segments now, and you do. There is something about a year ending and you don't yeah no one looks back and they go oh no, I count my years, june to june when you look back at 2013, you look back at things that happened 2013 yeah so it's like the year's over and things are gonna happen 2025.
Speaker 2:Easiest way of like compartmentalizing it yeah you're doing yeah so yeah, no, but I'm all, I'm all about I mean, I think it's talking to you more the reflection really yeah, because I think I I just was on this thing of like, improve, improve, improve, try and improve, or why you're not improving, that kind of thing, yeah, that you don't look and you don't look back at the improvements you've made, you just look at the ones you could still be making, yeah, and in that way you kind of just you never get to enjoy your progress, absolutely, you just are always looking for the next thing, the next thing, the next thing, the next thing, and it's yeah mental but then when you look at, say, 10 years ago, you're exactly where you wanted to be right now yeah so sometimes you've got to think, oh shit, wait a minute, I am right where I wanted to be 10 years ago that's it.
Speaker 2:It's zoom out on the graph a little bit, you know people will see like they've had a little bit of a bad time before you know, and they're in a little bit of a rut. Yeah, but then if you zoom out to 10 years where your bad time was before, compared to now, yeah, you're bloody miles away from it exactly.
Speaker 3:You're up 100, you're 150.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you're a different person now, and would you trade your bad time now for your bad times back then?
Speaker 3:fuck no so what's your? What's your best bits then, 2024, what's your best bits?
Speaker 2:talk to me taking brin on holiday. Oh, it was lovely. And obviously, looking back, I'm sure Coop will have some stern words about why he wasn't invited, and so will Brie, but you know it's so important to have time alone with different people, and obviously it'll be the only time that ever happens.
Speaker 2:It'll be the only time, because you know Coop will be as he gets older. I'll invite him on holiday, but you know I just'll be as he gets older. I'll invite him on holiday, but you know I just saw an opportunity for some father-daughter time and then I saw even more opportunity thinking, hang on, if I need a little bit of babysitter, it'd be good if dad was there as well. So dad came along and it was just. It was just lovely. I mean I know it.
Speaker 3:I love the fact you did it. I love the fact you did it.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Well, not for you guys, but just for Brené, because I know she would get so much from that. She'll always remember those memories as well. It's that one-on-one time with both of you. That's it, and she had us wrapped around a little thing.
Speaker 2:Absolutely, we were doing everything for her.
Speaker 3:Brilliant.
Speaker 2:And we didn't get the best weather and the pool was absolutely freezing. But she and I know everyone says it but we have, we have the best child we do, we have the best daughter and so far, so good on the best son. So we did win because they are lovely and she, britain, on this holiday was just like like nothing. There was no point where she was a problem, like there was no like yeah, she got occasionally annoyed or whatever and stuff like that, because she was tired, you know, because she used to go to bed at like six o'clock and she's at the disco at nine and she's like wondering what the fuck's going on. She's hung over basically at the disco and even the we did like a we left at three o'clock in the afternoon, so we're flying back a four-hour flight into gatwick, three and a half hour drive home, and she started getting annoyed five minutes from home oh, she's a good girl, isn't, so she's and for the rest of that she was kind of just.
Speaker 2:She was like watching mr bean or singing along to songs in the car like she was and she, and then she would go like I just, can I have a sleep? I went, yeah course, have a little sleep, and she'd lean over in the car seat, close her eyes for about five minutes and then come back again and start singing like Row, row, row your Boat or something. So she kept giving herself little like power naps. That is so cute. So yeah, she was great and I was worried on the flight.
Speaker 3:I was like, oh, is she going to be gold? Couldn't, couldn't care less, jet setter.
Speaker 2:She's gonna be a jet setter when she's older. Yeah, she will be. I'll be worried sick all the time.
Speaker 3:Mr mary, I love seeing you with the kids because if there's, if there's anyone who makes me want children, it's probably you. Really yeah, because I just think you're just such a I don't know, you're just very chill about it. The kids are just like angels and they are actually angels. They do make it. You don't know, you're just very chill about it.
Speaker 3:The kids are just like angels and they are actually angels they are, they do make it easy, you don't know what's actually going to come out, so that's always a problem, but they are. You know. It's just you feel very chilled out. You know you just love being a dad and yeah, it's just nice they have.
Speaker 2:They have made it easy. Both of them, I mean both of them, I mean they. They both had chicken pox at the same time, and it was. It was barely an issue yeah they even had the non-itchy chicken pox. They went off and got that one. Good lads, you know they are they?
Speaker 3:they are absolutely great kids, they are so.
Speaker 2:So that's that's obviously, obviously. I'm grateful for that yeah obviously grateful for, like obviously grateful for, brie. She's been smashing this year. She's been, yeah, working like crazy and she's done very well, got promotion two promotions.
Speaker 3:Two promotions in one year, go girl which is wild.
Speaker 2:So she's, but she's doing really well and you know she's. She's coming home and she's telling me about everything that's going on at work and she's you know stuff that she's doing and like I'm seeing like a real, like spark in her at the minute like.
Speaker 3:I love that.
Speaker 2:She's really like swept up in in work and really like feeling like you know, because sometimes you can be like working, working, working. I don't feel like you're making any headway and like like, is what I'm doing actually paying off?
Speaker 2:and now she's starting to see like the fruits of her labor and she's, I love, really like starting to see like the fruits of her labor and she's really like starting to see like the changes in the kids and because she's at what, she's had the same class from like year seven through to um year 11 and she's been away twice on maternity leave yeah but she's had them for five years, so she's seen them like when they first got there and you know, there was maybe some difficulties and some kids weren't getting on with each other and and some kids, like people, couldn't even you couldn't even talk to them because they, you know, they didn't want to behave or whatever, and they're completely different kids.
Speaker 2:They're passing their GCSEs, like you know. It's that's lovely it's like and so she's seeing that it's a really nice like growth to see, because I've seen complete growth in her over the five years. Obviously having two kids is huge but like in her teaching and everything like that, like stuff that really used to get to her is like water off a duck's back now she doesn't, she doesn't love that, she just powers through it.
Speaker 2:It's wild like and I mean I could never do her job. The paperwork, the red tape, all of that stuff around it. I'm like is so she's tapping away her laptop especially especially when it's like special needs kids.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah it's because there's a lot, there's a lot of red tape around that and a lot of like safeguarding and different layers to it, that you really have to be switched on for that. I am like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I. You know I don't have the um, the person, the taipei personality for it, so I'd be like, oh no, thank you, um, I would be. If I was at bruce, will. I think I would have been sacked by now for sure. So that that's another thing. You know, I'm happy watching that, and you know, and and I'm really happy with this podcast. You know this I was waiting for you to mention the podcast.
Speaker 3:Sorry, you had it third on the list excuse me, keep going down.
Speaker 2:This is he gonna say it.
Speaker 2:Um, and you know, we, we we're bobbing along and, I'm not gonna lie, this is kind of a podcast secondary, a therapy session first, like we really do get to just open up, like these end up being half hour, 40 minute hour long episodes after we've spoken for about three hours, like we are just yammering on, thinking, is there's an episode? Yeah, yeah, there's an episode that we'll cut out, that last two and a half hours while we were talking, you know, open up about absolutely everything. So it's, it's been a really nice thing because, like with being family and stuff like that, we can really talk to each other about basically anything. And so I think, I think it's been helpful for us both just to have like a social outlet basically every week, and also just like a we can air our grievances and because we kind of don't have well, we're not, we're not working in similar, we're not working in the same fields, and we, you know, we don't have that much overlap some of the stuff we can air us off about.
Speaker 2:It's just like we just let it all out, without offending, you know, because you don't know the people I'm complaining about and I don't know the people you're complaining about. It's lovely. Yeah, we can have a wild run. Obviously, none of that makes the podcast, but other than that, it's. It's just it is. It is a nice time and I really like what's happening and we've got some very exciting things uh, next year.
Speaker 3:Yeah, we're saying a bit I don't want to say now.
Speaker 2:I think this is a bit are you?
Speaker 3:this is it okay? Yeah, okay, listen I don't know I'm not gonna do it at the end.
Speaker 2:No, I think we're at the end. What about mine? It's quarter two, all right? Um, yeah, okay, what are you grateful for then? Before we get to the exciting parts, let's talk about you.
Speaker 3:You're just like.
Speaker 2:All right, come on. What's your top three? Better be podcast. Top three Right, okay, go on quick fire gun to your head.
Speaker 3:Right, so I've done two things off my bucket list this year.
Speaker 2:Okay, nice.
Speaker 3:No, three things, no, two big things.
Speaker 2:I've run there, ian was my number one German helicopter pilot.
Speaker 3:And the helicopter ride that was on my helicopter list.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's good.
Speaker 3:And then you know going to watch Ludovico Iron Aldi. That was another thing. Big loads Amazing time and it's just been nice like little holidays as well, Like I've truly had some really good trips this year and I'm so grateful for it and made some great friendships as well this year.
Speaker 2:I feel like we've got a lot done.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 2:I feel like we've got more to do. I'm going to enjoy the back end of the year. Have a little moment chill with the family, have a few beers.
Speaker 3:I'm a bit nervous.
Speaker 2:Probably.
Speaker 3:I'm a bit nervous saying goodbye to this year. Why? Because it's definitely been a year of like, like a year of good times, but then it has been a year where there's been a lot of growth and obviously with growth comes a lot of hard times. Otherwise you don't get the growth. Yeah, so like I will be a bit sad to say goodbye 2024, because there has been a lot that's come from it, and I'm a bit nervous about 2025 because I know that I want to, I need change. I don't know what that change is, but I feel like I know I'm going to look for that next year.
Speaker 2:And are you worried that your growth comes from hard times? So that means, if you want to have more growth in 2025, there needs to be more hard times? No, and are you worried what the hard times might be?
Speaker 3:No, because I don't feel like I'm going to go through many more hard times next year.
Speaker 2:I think I've had two years, so why are you away then? It's going to be a breeze. Yeah easy breezy 25. That's true actually that's true.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but next year we've got a sponsor at the beginning, which we're really excited about.
Speaker 2:We're going to raise some awareness for men's mental health and really, are we going to mention who the sponsor is? Yeah, yeah, why not? Yeah, so we're going to be working with someone I advocate for because I still take part in everything they're doing. So, man versus fat, they're sponsoring our podcast over throughout january.
Speaker 3:Really, january february yeah.
Speaker 2:So we're going to get stuck in. We're going to be charlotte's going to be joining me down the club yep um, the man versus the club and then we're going to be talking to some people. We're going to be hearing people's stories about what, you know, the weight loss has meant to them either well, physically, obviously, and then mentally you know it's just going into stuff like that and really talking to some interesting people about the different layers of this and how it's not just a vanity project.
Speaker 3:It really is much bigger than that and that's what we're going to get stuck into next year, yeah, and, like the guys who are listening, we're going to get you involved, yeah. So if you next year, if you've, if you've had this year and you're a bit like, oh, I don't feel like happy in myself. I want to make changes myself. This is definitely speaking to you right now, because when we go down to the well, we're going to go down to the derby club, but there is other clubs all the way across the uk which we'll talk about more next year, of course. But come down when we go down to the derby, anyone local, come down to derby club. We're going to be there. We'll tell you more about it in january, because this is actually going to happen beginning of february. But you know, have a reflect over the christmas and if you guys want to come and join us and change life because that's what it's done to many men, it's including yourself it's the best way.
Speaker 2:So not only we're grateful to be having sponsors going into the new year, but we're also grateful for the people who are listening absolutely because without you lot, why would we be doing this?
Speaker 3:but you know what as well. The biggest thing is, you know, because we started this podcast, like last year, last christmas, when we all sat around that table, we had no idea that this was going to happen this year, which is absolutely mad. It's crazy when you think about it.
Speaker 2:And it's been a very good constant. It's been amazing.
Speaker 3:yeah, I've learned so much from it.
Speaker 2:Consistency is key, isn't it? Ed has?
Speaker 3:taught me, so even my communication. It's made me realize I've got to really work on that which I'm trying to do. So I've learned a lot from doing this podcast. And you know, you see people like kind people who, who share things, who tag you or who send you voice notes saying, oh my God, you know everything. So, for instance, one of my really good friends, victoria, every Wednesday she's messaged me and she tells me, you know, gives me feedback on the episode, and that is true friendship right there.
Speaker 1:Like how kind is that?
Speaker 3:And it just makes you appreciate the people around you so much more, the ones who really do take the time to listen. So thank you guys.
Speaker 2:I was. I was even shocked when, um, I was talking to my friend and he referenced something we said on the podcast and I went oh, you've been listening. And he went yeah, of course I'm going to support what you're doing. I went oh, really, because you don't want to be that guy who's like, oh, I've got a podcast, you guys need to listen.
Speaker 3:This is it.
Speaker 2:If you guys want to listen, I don't know, it's whatever.
Speaker 3:Please listen Please.
Speaker 2:I listen, I don't know, it's whatever. You know, please listen, please. Uh, I'll buy you a drink, um. But yeah, he referenced it. I was like that's cool. I like that, that's a nice, that's a nice thing. So that was like a, and we keep, honestly, along the way of doing this. There's these little like I don't know like sparks of motivation where, like something happened, you go oh, this is actually like. This feels like it's becoming something. Yeah, it doesn't feel like we're just shouting into the void. It feels like we're getting feedback.
Speaker 3:People are listening oh god, yeah, when you hear that I love it when someone says, oh, it's changed my life, I'm like what?
Speaker 2:bloodsy. Nora, I haven't said that to me yet yeah, someone said that to me, yeah my name. Was it my mum?
Speaker 3:it was the episode? No, it wasn't. Actually, it was the episode when we mentioned how life just goes fast and you might only have 40 years left. Someone was turning 40 and he was like do you know what it made me think so?
Speaker 2:you know what it made me really sad but no, yeah, so it is a I I genuinely think about, like when we hit episode 100 and I'm gonna listen back to that episode oh god, 12 and be like, do you remember? That? Do you remember? When Blah, blah, blah and there's going to be. There's so many changes happening going into the third season. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I can't even imagine what it's going to be like going into season 10.
Speaker 3:Oh, no, and.
Speaker 2:I'm just, I'm excited for it. Same and we're going to keep chugging away, keep, keep. It's the people you meet as well. I love them. Well, it's open doors. Like I'm on tv tomorrow, I'm on the radio new year's yeah, well, january 2nd, what's going on? What's happening? Yeah, that's never happened. And suddenly it's opening these doors and you know it's, it's exciting and it gives a little little avenue on our life to go down to have a little have a little look.
Speaker 3:I do love the creative side. That's it.
Speaker 2:Oh, I guess the juice is flowing for sure side from him and so we are very grateful and I know I'm well aware that I don't have the most sincere tone and I'm genuinely being sincere now very grateful to everyone who's listened. Yeah, wherever you are. Whether you knew us before, you know is now.
Speaker 3:We're grateful to all of you and we hope you continue to do so yeah, and on that note, guys, I've got to be in the office tomorrow for a massive meeting, so we're gonna have to end it there, aren't we? That is our 2020, 2020, 2020, 2024, done, that's our 20, I can't even say it 2024 you good, yeah, couldn't say it then. No, I wasn't actually like wait breaking down 2020 2024 yes, got stuttered, you did it, you did it. Yeah, so that's it.
Speaker 2:2024 is done for us and then this is going to get released next week and we will see you in the new year, january 6th. We're having a couple weeks off yep and new release date will be monday and if you're still listening now, we love you and we'll see you in the new year have a great christmas everyone.
Speaker 3:Thank you so much. Thank you so so much, ciao thanks for listening.
Speaker 1:We know time is precious and we thank you for yours. Please like and subscribe and we'll see you next week.
